Advice

By whsword

Here you go Warriors, you wanted an advice column? Well here’s your chance to ask for your advice.

You may use any username you please! Each month, the question asked will be selected and published, but all advice that gets posted here will be given responses right on this page. Now go ahead, ask away!

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  1. 1 Anonymous
    November 14, 2008 at 9:24 pm

    What can I do if I have trouble trying to keep up in doing my homework? I mean, if I have tons and tons of it, and it would take a long time to finish.

    Hello Anonymous,

    Well, there is one positive thing about having terms instead of semesters, and that is that there are day 1’s, and day 2’s. You should take advantage of the fact that you have two days to complete an assignment. Especially for the huge projects, you shouldn’t pile it all on one day, it doesn’t help! If you know that you will probably take more time on one assignment than you shouldn’t start at 12:00 pm. The earlier you start the faster you get it done! This might sound tacky, but your planner helps A LOT! It is really simple to forget about a project, or a paper but when you have it written down than you can always go back and check. We hope this helps! (:

    Sincerely

    S.P & C.L

  2. 2 Confused
    November 18, 2008 at 11:14 pm

    What should I do if I have a huge test tmr, and it is 11:13 pm and I have gotten no studying done because of all the other homework I have been doing!

    Hello Confused,

    It’s common for everybody to have so much homework that there is no time for studying, but it is okay because there is a solution. Luckily in high school, there are breaks in between each of your classes and you can use up those times to study. But if the test was first block, then I say to just wake up a bit early and use that time up. If you’re really desperate and don’t even get a single thing you’re reading, then you should go to your teacher a couple of minutes before class starts and ask him anything you don’t understand. Teachers are generous if the student actually came up to them before the test they will help you, but you shouldn’t wait for the last minute to study because you have other classes. So if you follow this, an “A” could end up on your test!

    Sincerely

    S.p & C.L

  3. 3 DRamatized
    November 18, 2008 at 11:16 pm

    Dear Soraya & Chris, I have this boyfriend, that talks about this other girl a lot to his friends. Does that mean he likes her? Should I be worried? And what if shes really pretty, and really nice. Well, I’m only in grade 8, and most of the guys in our grade like her, and I trust my boyfriend but i don’t know what to think?! !! What should I DOOOO

    Hey Dramatized,

    I think every one agrees that relationships are really complicated, but you shouldn’t worry because if you really love him, and he really loves you then do you honestly think he’d be willing to give all that up just for some other girl? If you strongly believe that he likes her then you should just casually talk to him about it, and tell him that you don’t feel comfortable with him talking a lot about her with his friends. It can be difficult to discuss matters like this with your boyfriend because you don’t know his reaction. However, it’s important for a healthy relationship to be able to express their emotions. Be brave and try to work things out.

    Good Luck,

    S.P & C.L

  4. 4 anomymous
    November 18, 2008 at 11:18 pm

    what do i do if my bestfriends breathe smells really bad and i cant bare to smell it but i dont want to hurt her feelings?

    Hello Anonymous,

    I feel your pain and I wouldn’t want to upset my friends too so what I would do is that I would ask them, “Oh do you want gum…it’s a good flavour! You should try it!” If it really bugs you though you should just take one step back, and you won’t be able to smell their breath. In the end, both of you would be happy and you would live your life even forgetting about “stinky breath”.

    Sincerely,

    S.P & C.L

  5. 5 truble
    November 21, 2008 at 4:08 pm

    i m having prob loms at hom wat shuld i do??

    Hello Truble,

    It is common for teenagers to have difficulty communicating with their parents, and family members which causes a gap in your relationships. We think we are not the right people to advise you on this matter, but we do want to help you so we will recommend some people you can talk to about this. First, we recommend your counselor, because they will listen to you and will surely advise you to make the correct decisions. Second, we recommended kids help phone not only is it anonymous, but they are someone who you can discuss your problems with, and you don’t have to worry what they think of you because they are there to judge you they are there to help you. Thirdly we recommended a really close friend who would listen to what you have to say. Sometimes it isn’t the person who you talk to, but it is the person who can relate to the situation you are in who will help you overcome your sadness.

    Hope we helped,

    C.L. & S.P

  6. 6 confuzzled
    November 24, 2008 at 11:51 pm

    im hitting puberty really late and i feel like a complete outsider, and it seems to be that none of the boys want anything to do with him. like i see all these girls walking in the halls with big boobs and already having boyfriends. but im alone, and nobody is really at the same phase as i am, what do i do? i cant take being an outside much longer, and my mom and dad hit puberty REALLY late to, so i suppose i have no choice..

    Dear Confuzzled,
    Puberty is a natural phase which everyone goes through whether it is as at the age of 7, or 75. Everyone goes through it and you will too someday. You will never know for sure when you will hit puberty. Well, because no one can control it, and you’re not an outsider if you aren’t wearing a D cup. When you get a boyfriend would you rather have them staring at your deep black (brown, green, mixed, ect.) eyes or at your chest?

    Continue Asking,

    S.P. & C.L

    to confuzzled: people develop at diff rates. its perfectly normal to hit puberty between the ages of 11 to 16. So you shouldn’t be worried about that. Secondly, just because a person has “big boobs” doesn’t mean that they are worth more. Let’s face it, if a guy is simply going out with a girl for that reason…..it is not a noble reason.

    - girlinred

  7. 7 2cliche
    November 25, 2008 at 8:55 pm

    What do I do now that I’ve fallen in love with my best friend? Especially when I know he’s had a history of being extremely close with all of his other friends that are close. Do I just go ahead and stay friends with him? Because… well.. I really really want to marry him, regardless of how stupid and obsessed that may sound.

    Since you are most likely in highschool – I’m going to say wait and don’t make any rash decisions. I’m only guessing, but this is the best way to go, especially if you’re in your junior years. People change a lot over the course of high school, and although it seems like being with that person is all you can think of doing or wanting at this point in time, it’s not always the best way to go. Once you break up, things always get a little weird. And I mean you have to ask yourself, is this person better as a really good friend, or something more? Is he boyfriend material? Or if he’s not, is he mature enough to get to that stage? If you answered no to the last question, then you should definitely NOT rush.

    All things aside, if you’ve really ‘fallen’ for your best friend as you say, it’s really tough to deal with it because you never know what they really mean by that hug or late night talk or whatever it is that they’re doing that you just can’t get enough of. If you have the sense that they like you as more than a friend and it could really work out, then maybe just let him know how you feel first. but please, do it one on one. there is nothing worse than doing it over msn or through a friend. that’s my opinion at least. If you really don’t think he thinks of you that way, then try to drop SUBTLE hints to get him going, because some guys are really thick headed. meaning they can’t tell if a girl likes them to save their own life. But sometimes part of that is just not ’seeing’ someone that way. you haven’t until now, it sounds like. what made you start? and on the other hand, maybe it’s crossed his mind before? it usually does when you’re best friends with a person of the opposite sex. i guarantee it. unless you guys really repulse each other in some way (like an annoying habit or something u just find generally unattractive)… which is why, in those cases, people would stay friends.

    A friend of mine used to tell me that if a person is really worth it, then you can wait. And, if they’re really meant for you, then a year or two years down the road won’t matter, because you’re really into who they are, and not just who they appear to be on the outside, if you know what I mean. It’s really hard to tell the difference between infatuation and potential love when you’re at this age, but from my experience it’s always good to take it slow. A lot of people get blinded when they become infatuated, and then once they have what they want – a ‘relationship’ – they start seeing again and begin to notice the other person’s flaws. So just wait a bit and see. If you’re still crazy about him in a few months (use your discretion), then consider telling him how you feel or making a move. DO NOT get your friends to ask him things like who he likes and that stuff. Trust me, always a bad move. Even if he tells you first that he likes you – or heaven forbid his FRIENDS tell you (I hope he doesn’t get them to do that) I would still say hold off on jumping into a relationship right away (from personal experience), especially if it’s going to be one of your first couple of relationships (or his).

    You also say that he’s got a lot of close friends… well just judge for yourself. Of those close friends, has he ever “been” with any of them? If so, have they worked or lasted for long periods of time? If not, then maybe there’s a reason you’re his “best friend” and not just a ‘close friend’… guys are sneaky that way. It’s either really obvious, or it’s really really hard to tell because you’ve been friends with them so long. But it’s definitely possible that he’s gained feelings for you recently and he just hasn’t told you yet. Hang out one to one, and see how it goes. If you guys seem to have really good chemistry, then you be the judge. However, the number one rule – if a guy makes an effort to see you or plans his schedule so he gets to spend time with you, then 1) he’s probably more than a friend 2) he enjoys spending time with you. Even my best guy friends, they would never really make time in their schedules to do this, but a guy who really cares about you will.

    i know it’s really long, but don’t feel bad if it doesn’t work out for you in the end, because things will just work out :) just keep being yourself, and eventually you’ll find someone who will want to marry you too.

    cheers.

    - unknown

  8. 8 LALA
    December 10, 2008 at 2:44 pm

    what should i do if i really am not learning anything from one teacher but i dont want to leave his class because i dont want to use that as an excuse.

    Well, it really depends what you’re learning. If it’s an academic, and you aren’t challenged enough in the class then maybe you should join fast track or one of the enriched classes. If it’s an elective, and you’re not enjoying yourself; though you might not want to use “not learning anything” as an excuse, schools a place where you learn right? So I would either transfer out if it’s that bad, or stick through it because it’s only term one and most of term one is usually on review.

    Hope that helped,

    Anonymous

  9. 9 confused&complicated
    December 23, 2008 at 3:49 pm

    Im confused, theres this guy and I know that I shouldn’t really be having feelings for him still, but I just can’t stop thinking about everything that had happend. Though it was his decision to “replace” me, it still hurts to see him in the hallways, let alone in class, and not being able to have those old normal conversations we use to have. Like in that song I wish you loved me; “How can someone make me so sad, still I want them to stay.” The complicated part is I’m thinking do I really still need him? I Don;t really know anymore…I just wish I could forget.

    It doesnt matter whether you should or should not still have feelings for him, because either way you still have them. When you like someone it’s hard not to think about them, and that’s okay, but losing a friend isn’t okay. Whether you still need him is up to you. You have two choices. If you can handle being just his friend, and maybe work your way back up to “having those conversations we used to have” then do it. And if you just can’t be his friend right now because you want to get over him first, then take that time to do so and maybe do choice one after. As for wishing you could forget, try not to think that way because everything we experiance is for us to learn from so we don’t make the same mistakes twice.

    Hoped that helped,

    Anonymous

    Thanks anonymous!

    But see, I also get the feeling maybe he doesn’t want to be just friends either.
    Pretty much I’ve gotten over it, yet he is still being immature about it. I should
    have added that as well.

    - confused & complicated

    Sorry for the late reply!

    If you’ve gotten over it, and he’s being immature, then give him some time. He’ll get over it eventually and maybe you guys can work something from there. Other than that, you’re over it right? Just move on with your life for now.

    Have a good Winter Vacation,

    Anonymous

  10. 10 Teacher
    January 6, 2009 at 5:09 pm

    Help… I’m getting some bad comments from my students. They think I made a wrong choice to become a teacher. What should I do? Any advice?

    http://ca.ratemyteachers.com/schools/british_columbia/vancouver/windermere_community_secondary

    Honestly I think if this is what you love to do, and if you have passion to do this for the rest of your life then it doesn’t really matter if your students think that you made the wrong choice. With that said, doing what you love doesn’t come easy, it’s going to be hard and you can’t please everyone. As for their bad comments, there will always be good and bad criticism in anything you do. The important thing is to know if it’s honest and constructive criticism or not. If it is constructive criticism then maybe you should take their comments into consideration and reexamine the way you teach, especially if majority of your class is failing. There’s always room for improvement; however if it’s something they said that’s silly or out of spite while majority of your class is doing well then don’t worry about it.

    Anonymous

  11. 11 b-ballr
    January 27, 2009 at 7:49 pm

    dear anonymous,
    i’ve been having second thoughts on my commitment to the team since season started. coach only puts me on for a few minutes each game, and im startin to feel like its just not wrth it anymore. i think i’m a good player, but need more playing time to prove myself. how can i get myself out of this catch-22?!

    Well, my advice would be to practice more at any chance you get to, then at practices prove to your coach that you’re worth to play longer during the games. And even at games, play harder, so he/she can see that you’ve improved and that you deserve to go on more.

    Hope that helps, and sorry for the late reply!
    Anonymous

  12. 12 sama
    February 16, 2009 at 3:38 pm

    I have a F.S.A thing and if i dont get the booklet right then that means my school will be votted the worst school ever so what do i do. And how can i make some time for studying when i have so much homework

    If I remember correctly, the F.S.A. tests english and math skills, so do your English and Math homework first, that way you’re studying and doing homework all at once! As for other homework, do it after your math and english homework. Once you’re done all your homework, you can do some extra studying for the F.S.A.!

    Hope that helps, sorry for the late reply, and goodluck!
    Anonymous

  13. 13 2cliche
    March 5, 2009 at 8:31 am

    How does this sound? I’m always running to my ‘best friend’. There was this period of time, about two weeks, that we didn’t talk, then I get a call from the guy, my heart beats and without hesitation I run to him.

    Desperate?

    Dear 2cliche,

    Well..I wouldn’t say desperate, I’d say that it’s normal. When you like someone, you want to talk to them all the time (and even more so if they’re your best friend too). So when they suddenly talk to you again after a period of not speaking, of course you’re going to “run back”.

    Take care,
    Anonymous


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